I had one person ask me via e mail for a picture of my Grinch and to see a picture of me in the red dress. Lyn, also asked, so here you ladies go.
Yep that was me about five years ago. Look at how skinny my arms are. Last night I told Rusty what I wrote about. He said that he loves the women I am today.
I was just settling into bed last night. I had some anti vomit medicine, so Tylenol p.m., I had all my favorite blankets and I was watching the Amazing race. Life was good.
Then Nikki comes running into our room just crying. She jumps in bed between Rusty and I. Nikki puts her head on Rusty's chest and she won't stop crying. O.K. I can't handle this. My head hurts. Whoever made my daughter cry is going to get their ass kicked.
Once we got Nikki calmed down here is what we heard. Nikki was over at the "boyfriends" house and she made him a birthday cake. Well the cake did not turn out. So everyone in the family made fun of her. Even the "adults" in the house. Nikki was so heart broken.
O.K. I have issues with this whole family, but now they have put my daughter in tears. Then we hear the "boyfriend" walk in. Rusty gets out of bed. I said "Tell the marines to kick his ass".
Rusty walks out into the living room and says "Listen here you little fuck head if you or your family ever puts my daughter in tears again I ...."
This morning we are waiting to see if the "boyfriend" shows up. Nikki is/was going to make him homemade donuts for his birthday.
This morning I asked the marines why they did not kick the shit of the "boyfriend". They all looked at me and one finally said "because you did not tell us to. But now he is 18, so the next time this happens we will take care of it."
So why do I let this "relationship" go on? That is an easy one. I have tried to talk to Nikki. I have stuck up for Nikki when the family runs her down. I have tried to show Nikki that there is no pleasing a women ( the boyfriend mom) who is addicted to pain pills, and booze. I have tried until I have nothing left to try with.
The big picture is this. Nikki is not pregnant. She is not having sex, She is not doing drugs. She gets good grades. She brings joy to a room just by walking into it. So I figure arguing over the boyfriend is getting me nowhere. This is a life lesson that she will have to learn.
Nikki will have to learn that "love" does not hurt. Nikki will have to learn that they are hypocrites in this world. The boyfriends mother is often the first to criticize everyone else and she will put herself on a pedestal. But the reality is that she is a drunk who is addicted to pills.
These are life lessons that I can't teach Nikki. I know that the fall will be a hard one, but I have told her. Like good parents Rusty and I will be there when she falls.
Let's face it. The only guy a teenage can count on is her dad.
Oh great the little fuck head just walked in.